How long have you lived in the Central Valley?
Married or single?
When did you come out to the first person in your life, or are you a straight ally?
When I was a toddler I told my mommy that I was really a girl. She was puzzled and then played along thinking I was making up a game. It was no game. I was a transgender girl.
Something you like about yourself?
I love to love other people. I see people as of infinitesimal value and as totally unique and special.
Something you dislike about yourself?
I get too busy to do fun things sometimes.
Character trait in others that you most admire?
Courage, determination, integrity, kindness, honesty, loyalty, honor, intelligence, caring.
Character trait in others that you most dislike?
Lack of honor and dishonesty.
What is your biggest regret?
Not transitioning sooner.
What are you most passionate about?
Working to change the paradigm of hatred and loathing that leads to the murder of hundreds of transgender women a year.
Favorite thing to do in your free time?
Help others with their transitions.
What aggravates you the most?
The stupidity of people who will not educate themselves about the science that shows transgender people are born as they are.
What makes you the happiest?
Loving others as I would love myself.
What are you, quite frankly, over?
Anything male in my own personality.
What is your biggest challenge?
Starting a vibrant national organization TransCare.Org to help transgender people with their transitions.
What was your favorite decade so far?
Now. I am true, authentic, female me.
Who is your favorite person to talk to?
Name a person you know personally who has had the biggest impact on you?
Marci Bowers. She made me authentic and correct with absolutely perfect Gender Confirmation Surgery.
Name a person you don’t know who has had the biggest impact on you?
Laverne Cox. She is a beautiful transgender woman who has pushed many boundaries forward for us.
The most important lesson you’ve learned so far?
Choose to experience profound unfathomable joy in your own life.
Besides a phone, what piece of technology can you not live without?
What superpower would you most like to have?
Super intellect, so I could solve problems to help others.
Who would you like to play you in a movie about your life?
Absolutely. I write movies, and am actually writing a screenplay about my own life. More likely, it will be Laverne Cox!
What is the best part of your day?
Every part. I love life and each moment.
What is your proudest moment?
The birth of my children.
Who did you overlook in your past?
My true female self. I was forced to behave as a male when I went to school and Cultural Gender Inertia kept me a male for decades.
What have you overcome?
Everything to become authentic. I have had to overcome suicide, depression, loneliness and being cast away by those who were supposed to love me unconditionally.
Where your ideal place to live?
I would love to live near my children and grandchildren so I could interact in their lives to make them richer. I am shunned from them presently.
What words do you live by?
As you pass through your life, determine to leave a trail of joy behind you.