Friday, January 23, 2015

Q & A with Kayleia Southard


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featuring questions and answers from members of the community...



Kayleia Southard currently lives in Clovis California. When she’s not trapped in the Fresno LGBT Community Center storeroom, she’s most likely found at a movie theater.

How long have you lived in the Central Valley?

I got whisked here to the Central Valley at the age of three to start me in a better school district. The schools in Bay Point apparently would have done a fine job at teaching me to join a gang, but a terrible job at teaching me to read.

Married or single?

Happily single. Thank goodness I dodged the recent marriage bullet that was shot my way!

When did you come out to the first person in your life?

That would have been the token bad girl in middle school. She promptly asked me out so it turned out alright.

Something you like about yourself?

I love my need for exploration. If I’m cooped up too long I will probably go on a murderous rampage.

Something you dislike about yourself?

I have a terrible case of resting bitch face. I promise I’m not mad! I just have sun in my eyes!

Character trait in others that you most admire?

The ability to be truly selfless, with not even a need for recognition. There are so many people who put others needs first and it’s inspiring to watch.

Character trait in others that you most dislike?

I would have to say victimhood. Terrible stuff happens to people all the time. You either rise above it or find a way to move on. To put yourself in a place where everything is personally and solely designed to fuck you over must be a miserable existence.

What is your biggest regret?

Probably that I don’t have more pictures with my best friend. He passed away and now all I have are the memories with him but no photos to relive them.

What are you most passionate about?

Helping other people. I get so much joy out of being at the community center and actually being able to make a difference in someones life.

Favorite thing to do in your free time?

Movies! I am a huge film buff. If it’s in the theater, I’ve probably seen it or am planning to.

What aggravates you the most?

People who refuse to see the other side of a situation. There are always two sides and refusing to see anything but yours alienates people.

What makes you the happiest?

This sounds cheesy, but making people laugh and smile. That’s probably why I like to baby sit my friends kids. They are full of giggles and joy at the drop of a hat.

What are you, quite frankly, over?

Thankfully not the hill.

What is your biggest challenge?

Not facebook stalking people. It’s just so much fun to watch the train wreck!

What was your favorite decade so far?

The 70s for it’s punk rock vibes. I end up taking some fashion notes from them (when I care about fashion) and can’t wait to bust out the leather jacket with the studded collar in the winter.

Who is your favorite person to talk to?

My dad. He’s a wealth of random information. I always end up learning something new.

Name a person you know personally who has had the biggest impact on you?

My Grandma Lois. I constantly referenced her and am planning on getting a tattoo dedicated to her. She has so many words of wisdom that have stuck with me to this day.

Name a person you don’t know who has had the biggest impact on you?

Lucy Lawless was who made the most impact. I remember secretly watching episodes of Xena and not knowing why I was so glued to the tv. Ah the days of being a baby lesbian.

The most important lesson you’ve learned so far?

That as much as the people around you think you’re making a terrible decision, they’re going to support you. Sure they’ll express their disapproval but they will still be your friends.

Besides a phone, what piece of technology can you not live without?

My ipad. I sleep most nights curled up with it.

What superpower would you most like to have?

I would love time travel. I wish I could see how some of our social justice movements are going to play out 30 years down the line.

Who would you like to play you in a movie about your life?

Can’t it be a documentary? I want to do something cool enough to get a documentary.

What is the best part of your day?

Those moments of silence when I first wake up. I just stretch and take a second for what feels like life to pool back through every muscle.

What is your proudest moment?

My proudest moment was walking across the stage at my college graduation. I was the first of the kids to graduate.

Who did you overlook in your past?

My brother and I weren't close as kids since we have a twelve year age gap. I overlooked the importance of having him around and am so lucky to have a relationship with him as an adult.

What have you overcome?

I was really convinced by someone in my life that I was an idiot. That I would never amount of anything so I shouldn’t try and just check out of life. Thankfully, I’ve never been good at blindly agreeing to things.

Where your ideal place to live?

I would love somewhere with places to explore. I’m sure I could find that anywhere but Morro Bay was amazing to visit.

What words do you live by?

“Forever a Work in Progress”

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